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My second marriage ended when a SWAT team broke down the door of my house and rescued me. Pretty dramatic. He was carted off to jail, I was taken to a hospital. I remember the day that divorce was final. The judge asked me if I really thought it was legal to put in my divorce decree that he had to pay child support and alimony to his first wife and put his children from his first marriage through college. I was my own lawyer. He had a lawyer. He agreed to it. He would’ve probably agreed to anything to avoid jail. And he was faithful in his payments to his first wife and he put his children through college as agreed.(The reason for this was that he had not paid child support and alimony before I met him and I forced the issue) his first wife was definitely afraid of him and would never have been able to have gone to court or done anything to force Support. Basically we had enough money to pay bills, and that was it as we lived a ridiculously excessive lifestyle. Sort of think of my marriage as the Eagles song “Life in the fast Lane”( below) and I finally did get off that highway. But I was highly employed with a very large law firm , so there weren’t any questions of support for me
This is the way the world ends. This is the way the world ends. This is the way the world ends, not with a bang, but a whimper.
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Eager for action and hot for the gameThe coming attraction, the drop of a nameThey knew all the right people, they took all the right pillsThey threw outrageous parties, they paid heavenly bills There were lines on the mirror, lines on her face She pretended not to notice, she was caught up in the race. Out every evening, until it was light. He was too tired to make it, she was too tired to fight about it
surely makes you lose your mind(Life in the fast lane) yeah(Life in the fast lane) everything all the time(Life in the fast lane) a-ha
“He was a hard-headed man. he was brutally handsome, and she was terminally prettyShe held him up, and he held her for ransom in the heart of the cold, cold city. He had a nasty reputation as a cruel dudeThey said he was ruthless, they said he was crudeThey had one thing in commonThey were good in bed, she'd say"Faster, faster, the lights are turnin' red"
What does it mean to dream about demons possessing people, and what can be done about this dream that keeps occurring for years?
Blowin' and burnin', blinded by thirstThey didn't see the stop sign, took a turn for the worseShe said, "Listen baby, you can hear the engine ring""We've been up and down this highway, haven't seen a goddam thing" He said, "Call the doctor, I think I'm gonna crash""The doctor say he's comin', but you gotta pay him cash"They went rushin' down that freeway, messed around and got lost. He didn't care, she was just dyin' to get off, and it was
I wasn’t very good at marriage. I think my first marriage ended on my honeymoon. We were not married very long. I was a spoiled, rotten brat, and I made the poor man miserable and he was lucky to get rid of me. I remember the last day of my marriage as we stood in the courtroom, and the judge was yelling at him and I told the judge not to yell at him, I knew who was at fault.
My third marriage just kind of faded away and after our children were grown, we just parted ways. A line from a song by the Michael Stanley band sort of summed it up. “ it’s not that we changed our minds. It was just that love was hard to find in the silence we were living in.” We had grown apart and had nothing in common anymore. There wasn’t much of an argument. I hated my property management business and so I gave it to him lock, stock and barrel. He was my book keeper. I felt no attachment to the house so I gave him the house free and clear. I took my IRA and one car and about $25,000 and left. I took a couple of pieces of furniture that I owned before we were married. I closed up my law practice which was pretty minimal as I had been shutting it down for a number of years, and he agreed to keep me on as an employee of my business that I gave him so that I could have a year of medical coverage while I got my teaching certificate. In return I inspected properties for him. My pay was medical. Since he basically got 90% of everything we owned, he agreed to finish putting the girls through college for anything more than their college funds accounts covered and to pay for their weddings. He did the college thing, but the weddings kind of fell on me. I didn’t even show up for the final hearing on the divorce.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
Life in the fast lane. The Eagles.
It may sound like I was a little altruistic in the divorce as he got so much, but I knew that I was in line to inherit a lot of money so money wasn’t my issue. Between teaching school and my inheritance, which came far too soon, I live a very comfortable life.
